Scarlet Jaxen
The only Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician in Victoria & the Greater Area.
Emerge Rooted
Narcissistic Abuse is a complex experience that is often treated incorrectly.
I’ve been studying domination and control for more than 20 years and have trained in progressive evidence based models of care that are designed specifically for people who have experienced abuse. I’m a registered social worker and certified narcissistic abuse treatment clinician with more than 15 years of clinical experience. I understand the story of resistance that runs parallel to every story of oppression. I know that you didn’t fall in love with a monster, you bonded with someone who made you feel deeply cared for, and over time their care shifted in ways that weren’t obvious at first. Those “red flags” were balanced by periods of warmth and attentiveness. If it was “good” OR “bad”, you wouldn’t feel so stuck. Narcissistic Abuse is a combination of healthy and unhealthy patterns of behavior, and that’s why it’s so hard to recognize when you’re in it, and so difficult to trust it’s reasonable to “give up” on the relationship.
I provide specialized therapeutic support that is rooted, collaborative, and contextual.
If you’re questioning whether you are in a relationship with a narcissistic person, or you know you are— but you feel stuck, or you’ve left and you want help recovering from the experience, I would be honoured to meet you where you’re at and guide you through a process of healing and growth.
Many of my clients come to me after years of trying to make sense of contradictory behaviour, emotional unpredictability, and patterns that don’t change through communication, patience, or self-improvement. My practice is guided by a simple but essential understanding: your responses to invalidating, manipulative, and controlling behavior are not flawed, they are intelligent adaptations designed to keep you safe.
Working from a rooted, collaborative, and contextual approach means I take your lived experience seriously, honour the strategies you’ve used to cope, and always consider the broader systems that shape what is possible for you. I don’t reduce your experience to symptoms, communication issues, or “relationship patterns.” I work with the full complexity of your situation— emotionally, relationally, and structurally.
My clinical focus is on supporting individuals who are navigating or recovering from narcissistic abuse and other forms of antagonistic relational stress. These dynamics are confusing, isolating, and often misunderstood, especially in therapeutic settings that treat them as mutual conflict rather than patterns of harm. I am committed to providing therapy that is informed and deeply attuned— support that doesn’t ask you to work harder to make an unworkable dynamic more tolerable, but instead helps you understand your experience, reconnect with your own perceptions, and explore what feels safe and possible for you right now.
If you are doubting yourself, feeling constantly invalidated, doing mental gymnastics to communicate your needs, feeling torn between outrage, grief, and this nagging hope that if you adjusted your behavior “just so,” you could get get back to the relationship that felt so right at one point, then I understand your experience and I have extensive training that I can share with you to help you navigate this.
Rooted
You already hold the wisdom you need to heal. Together, we’ll gently uncover what’s been buried or forgotten so you can reconnect with yourself and access your inner wisdom. Healing begins with compassion care and the courage to return to yourself.
Collaborative
You bring your insight and the truth of your lived experience, I provide warmth, presence, responsive care, and clinical skill to facilitate a therapeutic process that is both deeply attuned and results driven. Together, we can shape a path that meets your personal needs.
Contextual
Our experiences don’t exist separate from history, systems, or relationships. Together we’ll explore the social, cultural, and relational layers of your experience, honouring the ways you’ve adapted and resisted, while supporting you to make choices that promote our wellbeing.
My Perspective On Healing From Narcissistic Abuse
I don’t believe you can communicate or regulate your way out of narcissistic abuse. You can’t make someone stop being abusive by being calmer, clearer, more empathic, or more accommodating.
What you can do is:
understand the patterns you’re in
recognize how these dynamics have impacted your body, mind, and sense of self
reclaim your own perspectives, limits, and values
explore what is possible for you in a way that honours your safety, capacity, and your personal context
Healing from narcissistic abuse is not about erasing what has happened. It’s about reclaiming yourself inside it and after it.
Scarlet Jaxen, Emerge Rooted Counselling
“There are relational dynamics that slowly erode your sense of self, leave you questioning your own perceptions, and keep you working harder than any relationship should require. You may be responding in ways that have helped you stay safe— monitoring, appeasing, staying quiet, sacrificing your needs— not because you are weak, but because the situation has demanded it. I would be honoured to support you in understanding these patterns, meeting you where you’re at, and guiding you towards clarity, self-trust, and a more rooted sense of self. ”
Is Emerge Rooted a Good Fit for You?
Emerge Rooted Counselling may be a good fit if you are:
navigating or recovering from narcissistic abuse within a partnership, a family member, a workplace, or a community setting
feeling confused, depleted, or unlike yourself in a relationship that others don’t fully understand
trying to make sense of why it’s so hard to leave, set boundaries, or stop feeling responsible for the stability and growth of a relationship
looking for a therapist who understands the relational stress you’re experiencing and will not ask you to keep working harder to make the relationship “work”
If you recognize yourself here and want support that is specialized and honest about the realities of narcissistic abuse, I’d be honoured to connect.
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